no...thoughts

all thought begins with the word NO.
It is the first word a child learns to claim borders
and identity.

so , no, attitude means nothing, education means nothing
in meeting another one when one is in love.

what happens in being in love is, when the feeling for the other
one is strong and clear enough, what happens is self-recognition,
finding oneself in infantility and emotional blindness and then seeing oneself
painfully exposed on a stage in one's own mind.
not to fall in these traps and holes is not a matter of attitude, attitude is artificial, but of
a un-pre-meditated readiness to see the other one and oneself in a new light.
and this is a surprise.
i heard we are too old to surprise each other:
for me, this is totally untrue.
each molecule in me says no to these words.
when i give up the ability for surprise, wonder, astonishment
in another one and in myself  i give up myself so much that i cannot be and give
anymore out of me: i would be spiritually dead.
all i call love would not even have ever existed.