tolerance is a word in which intolerance hides.
i tolerate you to be here but i don't like you and if i could chose either
you or me wouldn't be here.
the pre-conditioning is: i cannot tolerate you as you are so and so,
from such and such parents, race, religion, appearance, background,
behaviour. i don't even like you talking but i have to deal with it.
you are blind and stupid and ugly and i cannot listen, i will withdraw my presence
a bit , just in a way that you will not feel offended and i will not be disturbed by your reaction,
i am busy with other things in my mind now.
and then the tolerant feels good, after all he himself
tried to be peaceful and non-offending or so he thinks.
to me a clear intolerance is much better than the lie of tolerance-
which when recognized is an insult, a way of domination. game.
clear intolerance with speaking openly when asked and come out with
prejudice is the better way not always to peace but sometimes to insight
following a serious and honest discussion or just a reflection
seeing oneself stand in the open to be violable and opinionated.
it doesn't work, unfortunately, when one doesn't
quite "know" and "see" why one cannot stand the other person in the room or film.
This needs a lot of researching inside oneself, usually it is hiding deep down in the past.
nevertheless, tolerance is what you feel when your dog pees on the neighbour's new
house.
don't try to be tolerant with humans.
ask, talk to them.
put up a sign at your gate if you wish such as 'we tolerate peanut butter, sausages, children ,dogs and litter in our garden'. it will remind you of what to be stupid means.
Tolerance, this must be clear, means nothing but the social convention not to kill each other.
Isn't this nice ?
much of what i wrote today are ways to find through ideas and historical big words,
a material i intend to use in a different way in my next book.
comments are welcome.
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