the unbearable lightness of being (Milan Kundera)

commitment is desirable and possible. it means chosen dependence and as such freedom. it is a commitment to share joy and suffering, to walk through in trust. it is a place of peace, but the harvest needs work. the soil must for each not be stone, and the ground for walking must be found together. when fear and the need for detachment is stronger than joy, all this is not possible. but spiritual growth in solitude only  is a dangerous enterprise. whenever you meet reality, you will see that all you have not failed in, is to stay alone.