Saturday, December 10, 2016
Do not go gentle into that good night, Dylan Thomas, read by Anthony Hopkins
may i go gently...when i will have to, may i reach the core of
light and kindness before i will be gone forever
a certain nakedness
we have no weight
for the turning
of sun and earth
and we are children
learning to walk
in the space
between us,
often falling
we carry a shell
like walnuts
and are afraid
to break open
we have thin skin
and are like onions
to peel away
layer for layer
and we are like plums
soft and sweet
with a stone
hard inside
we are all this
and our heart
flutters like a bird's
on each other's hand
all there is,
the scent of now
and memories retold,
hurt transcended
with eyes of the heart,
to find a path
for the story
to unwind
and the music to play
for the dance,
open and vulnerable
in a certain nakedness
for the turning
of sun and earth
and we are children
learning to walk
in the space
between us,
often falling
we carry a shell
like walnuts
and are afraid
to break open
we have thin skin
and are like onions
to peel away
layer for layer
and we are like plums
soft and sweet
with a stone
hard inside
we are all this
and our heart
flutters like a bird's
on each other's hand
all there is,
the scent of now
and memories retold,
hurt transcended
with eyes of the heart,
to find a path
for the story
to unwind
and the music to play
for the dance,
open and vulnerable
in a certain nakedness
Jason Mraz 2011 Taipei Concert- Woman I Love
and i want a hand holding me from falling too...that's all
David Whyte, quotes on anger, forgiveness and maturity
David Whyte, Consolations, brainpickings
"ANGER is the deepest form of compassion, for another, for the world, for the self, for a life, for the body, for a family and for all our ideals, all vulnerable and all, possibly about to be hurt. Stripped of physical imprisonment and violent reaction, anger is the purest form of care, the internal living flame of anger always illuminates what we belong to, what we wish to protect and what we are willing to hazard ourselves for. What we usually call anger is only what is left of its essence when we are overwhelmed by its accompanying vulnerability, when it reaches the lost surface of our mind or our body’s incapacity to hold it, or when it touches the limits of our understanding. What we name as anger is actually only the incoherent physical incapacity to sustain this deep form of care in our outer daily life; the unwillingness to be large enough and generous enough to hold what we love helplessly in our bodies or our mind with the clarity and breadth of our whole being."
"What we have named as anger on the surface is the violent outer response to our own inner powerlessness, a powerlessness connected to such a profound sense of rawness and care that it can find no proper outer body or identity or voice, or way of life to hold it"
"FORGIVENESS is a heartache and difficult to achieve because strangely, it not only refuses to eliminate the original wound, but actually draws us closer to its source. To approach forgiveness is to close in on the nature of the hurt itself, the only remedy being, as we approach its raw center, to reimagine our relation to it."
"To forgive is to put oneself in a larger gravitational field of experience than the one that first seemed to hurt us. We reimagine ourselves in the light of our maturity and we reimagine the past in the light of our new identity, we allow ourselves to be gifted by a story larger than the story that first hurt us and left us bereft."
(from: The Lion and the Bird, Marianne Dubuc)
The Lion and the Bird
"MATURITY is the ability to live fully and equally in multiple contexts; most especially, the ability, despite our grief and losses, to courageously inhabit the past the present and the future all at once. The wisdom that comes from maturity is recognized through a disciplined refusal to choose between or isolate three powerful dynamics that form human identity: what has happened, what is happening now and what is about to occur.
"ANGER is the deepest form of compassion, for another, for the world, for the self, for a life, for the body, for a family and for all our ideals, all vulnerable and all, possibly about to be hurt. Stripped of physical imprisonment and violent reaction, anger is the purest form of care, the internal living flame of anger always illuminates what we belong to, what we wish to protect and what we are willing to hazard ourselves for. What we usually call anger is only what is left of its essence when we are overwhelmed by its accompanying vulnerability, when it reaches the lost surface of our mind or our body’s incapacity to hold it, or when it touches the limits of our understanding. What we name as anger is actually only the incoherent physical incapacity to sustain this deep form of care in our outer daily life; the unwillingness to be large enough and generous enough to hold what we love helplessly in our bodies or our mind with the clarity and breadth of our whole being."
"What we have named as anger on the surface is the violent outer response to our own inner powerlessness, a powerlessness connected to such a profound sense of rawness and care that it can find no proper outer body or identity or voice, or way of life to hold it"
"FORGIVENESS is a heartache and difficult to achieve because strangely, it not only refuses to eliminate the original wound, but actually draws us closer to its source. To approach forgiveness is to close in on the nature of the hurt itself, the only remedy being, as we approach its raw center, to reimagine our relation to it."
"To forgive is to put oneself in a larger gravitational field of experience than the one that first seemed to hurt us. We reimagine ourselves in the light of our maturity and we reimagine the past in the light of our new identity, we allow ourselves to be gifted by a story larger than the story that first hurt us and left us bereft."
The Lion and the Bird
"MATURITY is the ability to live fully and equally in multiple contexts; most especially, the ability, despite our grief and losses, to courageously inhabit the past the present and the future all at once. The wisdom that comes from maturity is recognized through a disciplined refusal to choose between or isolate three powerful dynamics that form human identity: what has happened, what is happening now and what is about to occur.
Immaturity is shown by making false choices: living only in the past, or only in the present, or only in the future, or even, living only two out of the three.
Maturity is not a static arrived platform, where life is viewed from a calm, untouched oasis of wisdom, but a living elemental frontier between what has happened, what is happening now and the consequences of that past and present; first imagined and then lived into the waiting future."
ANNA RF , WEEPING EYES
"Eyes shedding tears, sleepy gardens
broken dreams if only I would live,
in the wide streets under the postings
in the thousands colours if only I could be.
If only my heart would be a shining star,
if only my glance would be a double-edged knife,
a glittering sword in the noon,
a glittering sword in the noon..."
the difficult person, presence
i liked this article, see link, for quite personal reasons.
there are two quotes here:
there are two quotes here:
"When we can more fully recognize the pain of the other person, we are likely to be less caught up in our own story about being good helpers, and we are more likely to stay present with a compassionate heart."
and:
"But, most importantly, she said, I had been willing to put up with her when she was going through a really hard time. In other words, what had been most valuable was not my ability to understand what she said or any suggestions that I had made, but my willingness, discontinuous though it was, to be present with a heart that was open to her and to her pain."
link:
the didactics of intolerance
tolerance is a word in which intolerance hides.
i tolerate you to be here but i don't like you and if i could chose either
you or me wouldn't be here.
the pre-conditioning is: i cannot tolerate you as you are so and so,
from such and such parents, race, religion, appearance, background,
behaviour. i don't even like you talking but i have to deal with it.
you are blind and stupid and ugly and i cannot listen, i will withdraw my presence
a bit , just in a way that you will not feel offended and i will not be disturbed by your reaction,
i am busy with other things in my mind now.
and then the tolerant feels good, after all he himself
tried to be peaceful and non-offending or so he thinks.
to me a clear intolerance is much better than the lie of tolerance-
which when recognized is an insult, a way of domination. game.
clear intolerance with speaking openly when asked and come out with
prejudice is the better way not always to peace but sometimes to insight
following a serious and honest discussion or just a reflection
seeing oneself stand in the open to be violable and opinionated.
it doesn't work, unfortunately, when one doesn't
quite "know" and "see" why one cannot stand the other person in the room or film.
This needs a lot of researching inside oneself, usually it is hiding deep down in the past.
nevertheless, tolerance is what you feel when your dog pees on the neighbour's new
house.
don't try to be tolerant with humans.
ask, talk to them.
put up a sign at your gate if you wish such as 'we tolerate peanut butter, sausages, children ,dogs and litter in our garden'. it will remind you of what to be stupid means.
Tolerance, this must be clear, means nothing but the social convention not to kill each other.
Isn't this nice ?
much of what i wrote today are ways to find through ideas and historical big words,
a material i intend to use in a different way in my next book.
comments are welcome.
i tolerate you to be here but i don't like you and if i could chose either
you or me wouldn't be here.
the pre-conditioning is: i cannot tolerate you as you are so and so,
from such and such parents, race, religion, appearance, background,
behaviour. i don't even like you talking but i have to deal with it.
you are blind and stupid and ugly and i cannot listen, i will withdraw my presence
a bit , just in a way that you will not feel offended and i will not be disturbed by your reaction,
i am busy with other things in my mind now.
and then the tolerant feels good, after all he himself
tried to be peaceful and non-offending or so he thinks.
to me a clear intolerance is much better than the lie of tolerance-
which when recognized is an insult, a way of domination. game.
clear intolerance with speaking openly when asked and come out with
prejudice is the better way not always to peace but sometimes to insight
following a serious and honest discussion or just a reflection
seeing oneself stand in the open to be violable and opinionated.
it doesn't work, unfortunately, when one doesn't
quite "know" and "see" why one cannot stand the other person in the room or film.
This needs a lot of researching inside oneself, usually it is hiding deep down in the past.
nevertheless, tolerance is what you feel when your dog pees on the neighbour's new
house.
don't try to be tolerant with humans.
ask, talk to them.
put up a sign at your gate if you wish such as 'we tolerate peanut butter, sausages, children ,dogs and litter in our garden'. it will remind you of what to be stupid means.
Tolerance, this must be clear, means nothing but the social convention not to kill each other.
Isn't this nice ?
much of what i wrote today are ways to find through ideas and historical big words,
a material i intend to use in a different way in my next book.
comments are welcome.
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